Updated: Sep 8
When your relationship is not feeling as strong as it used to, it’s easy to become overwhelmed with doubts. That’s a time when many of us turn to Tarot. But what if Death, the Tower or 10 of Swords pop up? What are the Tarot cards announcing a break up and could they be telling us more?
While we often fear to see difficult cards come up in our spread, we should always remember that they do so for a reason. Tarot is an ally, not a fiend. A message of warning can often help prevent the shock that was to come by helping us prepare for the changes ahead. Sometimes there is still a chance to save a relationship in danger and Tarot can tell you how to give it your best shot!
The Tower is an “ending” card, without a doubt. In a love reading it very often announces a break up or a major argument. The rest of your spread will add information regarding the break up or crisis itself: is it over for good? Will there be a second chance? Is it for the better?
A reversed Tower says the break up is likely to be avoided. More cards could tell you how to save the day.
Justice can announce a break-up but only depending on how you formulated your question. It is especially true if you are officially married or committed to someone (living together, working together or else) and if your question is about a legal separation. On its own, Justice speaks of making a rational and well informed decision rather than depending on your emotions only as your guide.
5 of Cups
The 5 of Cups is a card of loss, there’s no sugarcoating it. Something’s not working and accepting the truth is the healthiest thing to do. But not all is dark, because the 5 of Cups doesn’t take everything away: it leaves a message or a lesson. If you were caught in an unhealthy relation or if doubts were on your mind, the 5 will surely bring you clarity and put an end to your hesitations.
8 of Cups
the 8 of Cups can sometimes announce a break up (although not in all cases). This 8 is about leaving something behind, but only when the time is right. It is about continuing on your journey, with one burden less to carry. It could be a relationship that is no longer satisfying. But it can also announce changes for the better if brighter cards are present. You could be leaving the arguing/worrying behind and save the relationship.
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The Hanged Man
The Hanged Man often speaks of a temporary break rather than a break up. It can be beneficial, depending on the surrounding cards, and could lead to a change of perspective and therefore a new chance for the relationship.
Surrounded by more difficult cards, especially Death or the Tower, what was planned to be a break or what felt like a temporary frustration is likely to lead to a complete break up.
10 of Swords
The 10 of Swords leaves little room for doubt: something is going to end. A cycle has reached completion and this card often announces a break up, without a chance of getting back together. But it also announces the end of useless suffering. Everything that could have been done to salvage this relation has been tried. When nothing else works, it’s simply better to let go and start your healing process.
It’s rare, but it happens, the 10 of Swords can also announce the end of a major crisis in the relation. In this case, it will be surrounded by more positive cards, which speak of union and healing (such as the Two or the Ace of Cups or Temperance for example).
3 of Swords
One of the most famous illustrations of the Rider Waite Tarot, the 3 of Cups speaks of heartbreaks and sorrow. As a direct answer to a love related question, it brings mostly negative messages. The 3 of Swords can speak of ongoing fights and arguments.
Jealousy and anger are tormenting you. Rejection is often announced as well as difficult separations. But Swords never leave us hanging without bringing something important: a lesson.
The suit associated with air is all about rationality. Whatever happens, does so for a reason. Focus on the learning and your healing process will not only be faster: it may bring you more than what you actually lost.
6 of Swords
Much like the 3 of Swords, yet a little less harsh, the 6 speaks of a separation. While it is difficult to get on your way and leave behind what you’ve loved, you know that it is the right thing to do when the 6 calls out for it.
The 6 of Swords will call for more cards to determine if this separation is temporary or not.
Death is not a break up card in essence. But it does indicate an ending.
It could be a rebirth or the end of troubles. It does often announce a definitive break up if your relationship was already on hold.